If you’ve been around here for a little while then you know that I’m a bit of a romantic. I’m an absolute sucker for all things love and sweetness and I proudly wear my heart on my sleeve. So yeah I’m kinda jazzed for today’s blog post. Today we are talking about love (ooh la la) but less of the cheesy heart-shaped balloons and rose petals stuff and more on how to love people better.
So for all of you single senoritas out there, fear not, this still totally 100% applies to you. Love comes in all sorts of ways, shapes and forms- be it romantic, or platonic- and we all need a little help being better at showing it to those around us. Enter in the five love languages…
People are so complicated right? Every person you meet is so incredibly unique and whilst that is a wonderful thing (because a billion clones would be rather dull) it also makes life hella confusing. You never know if someone will be offended by the things you say or will think you’re a hoot.
And when it comes to relationships…well that’s a whole other ball game. No matter how many people you ask for advice, you’ll get all sorts of different opinions. Because people are so different there is no one size fits all answer when it comes to love. But there ARE a whole bunch of red flags to look out for that are warning signs that the relationship you are pursuing is no good. In which case you should run as fast as your cute, tan boots will allow you.
Right now everything is a little blurry. Not because I forgot to take my contacts out again and they have glued themselves to my eyeballs. Or because it is 5am and I hardly slept a wink last night. Nope. It’s blurry because of the hot tears streaming down my cheeks. Tears of disappointment, rejection, hurt, loss and anger. Tears for the almost and the not quite enough. If you have a second, let me tell you the story behind my most recent sadness.
You know what doesn’t get celebrated enough? Being nice. It’s such a simple thing but boy does it make a huge difference. Especially on those days where everything is going wrong because your alarm didn’t go off and you ran out of hot water and you slept funny so your hair is sticking up on one side and completely flattened on the other. Those are the days when the kindness of a stranger can almost bring a tear to your eye. When it feels like the world is such a horribly cruel place it’s nice to know that there are people out there who wanna be a friend.
A little while ago I wrote a post- should girls pursue guys? And you guys were big fans. Apparently there aren’t a whole lotta people out there speaking up for single girls and giving reasonable advice. I think that needs to change! Growing up I’ve found the whole relationships, dating and singleness thing very confusing. Probably because there are a heck of a lot of useless noisy voices giving advice (I’m looking at you Cosmo.) But now I’ve got a voice and a platform, I thought I’d share a few pearls of wisdom I have learnt over my single years. So this way you can learn from my mistakes and not make as much of a fool of yourself as I have.
Okay seriously though how is it the end of May already? I’m freaking out just a teensy bit. It is nearly the end of our first semester and that means it is nearly the end of the year and the end of my university career. Apparently time flies when you are drowning in assignments and extremely caffeinated. Anyway, it is time for another book review and this month it is a book for those of us who find this whole making-friends-as-an-adult thing a struggle (i.e. literally everyone.)
Do you ever look back on things you did or thought and wish you could go back and give yourself a little shake. Like wake up kid…what are you thinking? Well I have a few of those moments and most of them are to do with boys, more specifically falling in love with boys.
It’s time for another relationship post (long time no see.) This time we are talking about how to boost your confidence so that your relationship can blossom. You see, you gotta work on yourself first before you try making a relationship work. Anyway, I’ve enlisted the help of another blogger who knows a teensy bit more about all this than me.
I recently read the book ‘The Five love languages’ and it kinda blew my mind. I know I’m like 20 years late and whatever, but I’m gonna rave about it anyway. The copy I have actually belonged to my Gran and it has got her handwriting all scribbled throughout it which I just love (those are the best kind of books, right?) So I thought today I’d talk about my love language and what I have learnt about love in general…ooh la la!
So if you clicked on this post I’m gonna guess that you are one of those cynical folks who can’t stand Valentine’s day. I bet you’re hoping that I’m gonna confirm your suspicion that Valentines is nothing more than a commercial money-making scam. Cause that’s what single girls are supposed to say right? Valentine’s day is not for us. It’s for those loved-up couples who constantly rub it in our faces. It’s not meant to be fun for us. Just like St Paddy’s day is lame if you aren’t Irish.