I’m currently jamming to Taylor Swift re-living my teen years (sans acne and awkwardness) and it is such a good time. Listening to this music always brings back memories for me and with that comes all the feels. To think how much I’ve experienced since I first heard these songs. To remember how far I’ve come, how much I’ve grown…and all the lessons I’ve learnt over the years. It makes me get a little teary. God’s been so good you guys. So today I wanna jump into a little bit of #realtalk about one of the greatest life lessons I’ve learnt so far.
When I think back to high school I remember two things:
- Always being told I was so quiet
- Never feeling like I fitted in
I was extremely shy and introverted. I was so uncomfortable with who I was and I did everything in my power to change myself. I felt so trapped in this body. And so angry that I’d been dealt such a bad hand. I wanted to be pretty, bubbly and likeable. Instead, I was shy, pimply and awkward.
I would have traded places with just about anyone in a heartbeat.
But hey guess what, a whole lot has changed since then. Three years and so much life experience has taught me that I was so wrong.
I’ve grown up but most importantly I’ve learnt that who I am is pretty great. Instead of trying to change myself I have learnt to embrace all my quirks.
The greatest life lesson I’ve learnt so far is: To love who I am.
But that being said, I’m still battling my insecurities. I still come home feeling hopeless sometimes. I still have those moments of crippling doubt and overbearing futility.
Everyone has insecurities, some people are just better at hiding them.
Things I am insecure about:
That I’m so quiet: I feel like I’m a forgettable person. Like I blend into the background and nobody would really miss me if I wasn’t there.
My body: Because I’m not and nor will I ever be super thin, tanned or ripped. I don’t measure up to society’s definition of beautiful and sometimes I let that upset me.
That I’m so girly: I get worried that people won’t respect me. That people will think I’m just another ditzy blonde. That guys will think I’m high maintenance and too much to handle.
That I’m an introvert: Because I’m so awkward in social situations. I always feel left out and misunderstood.
Related: Honest confessions of an introvert.
That I have a blog: And I share my secrets with literally the entire world. What will people think of me when they read my deepest fears and failures?
That I’m so out of touch: Because I am pretty much a grandma. I don’t speak in slang like the youths do. I don’t like Game of Thrones. I don’t often stay up past 9 pm. And I fear that people won’t like me because of it.
That I’m a Christian: I worry about how I come across all the time. What will people think of me? Will I be judged if I share my beliefs with people? Will people make assumptions about me like I don’t drink or I hate homosexuals? (neither are true FYI.)
All of these things are what make me, me. All of this time I was trying to change myself but all I was doing was stripping away the essence of who I am.
The greatest life lesson I have learnt is that you are most powerful when you are being true to yourself. When you know who you are and choose to love that person…you become unstoppable. You are a force to be reckoned with and you will turn heads!When you love yourself...you become unstoppable. Click To Tweet
Who is this girl with all that confidence?
What is her secret?
I want what she’s got!
When we own our “flaws” and celebrate them…it changes everything. So just to prove my point I’m gonna flip all of those insecurities on their head.
Here’s what I love about myself:
My quietness: means that I really listen when people talk and I make observations that others miss.
My body: is mine and it really is beautiful. It’s just the shell that carries the joy inside me.
My girlishness: I get such joy in dressing up and pretty clothes give me confidence. There’s no shame in dressing to impress.
My introvertedness: makes me relatable to other people. Extroverts often own the show so people find it refreshing to meet an introvert.
My blog: is my biggest achievement to date. Everything I have created here comes straight from my heart and I am extremely proud of it.
My old-fashioned nature: is just a bit of a laugh. I bring the entertainment factor just by being myself. I’ll never be cool but heck, where’s the fun in that?
My faith: is my greatest source of strength. It’s the very core of who I am. It is the only thing that truly defines me. And I wanna spend all my days gushing about God’s goodness.
See your flaws and insecurities can become your greatest strengths. They are the very things that make you unique and valuable. And boy do we need unique. There is so much fake and inauthentic in this world.
We NEED a dose of realness. We need quirky, weird and wacky. We need you to be yourself because as Oscar Wilde says: everyone else is already taken.
The greatest life lesson you will ever learn truly is: to love yourself just the way that you are.
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Hold up…before you leave, I wanna tell you about something awesome. I’ve teamed up with a bunch of other fab bloggers to giveaway some goodies to celebrate Kristin’s 3rd Blogiversary.
Here’s what you could be in to win. I low key wish I could enter because I’m obsessed with that necklace. But lucky you, you CAN enter…all you’ve got to do is fill out the entries below. (Only open to US and Canada residents, sorry!)
Now tell me…
What do you LOVE most about yourself?
What were you like in high school?