Real talk: The greatest life lesson I’ve learnt so far

Hey friends!

I’m currently jamming to Taylor Swift re-living my teen years (sans acne and awkwardness) and it is such a good time. Listening to this music always brings back memories for me and with that comes all the feels. To think how much I’ve experienced since I first heard these songs. To remember how far I’ve come, how much I’ve grown…and all the lessons I’ve learnt over the years. It makes me get a little teary. God’s been so good you guys.  So today I wanna jump into a little bit of #realtalk about one of the greatest life lessons I’ve learnt so far.

When I think back to high school I remember two things:

  1. Always being told I was so quiet
  2. Never feeling like I fitted in

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I was extremely shy and introverted. I was so uncomfortable with who I was and I did everything in my power to change myself. I felt so trapped in this body. And so angry that I’d been dealt such a bad hand. I wanted to be pretty, bubbly and likeable. Instead, I was shy, pimply and awkward.

I would have traded places with just about anyone in a heartbeat.

But hey guess what, a whole lot has changed since then. Three years and so much life experience has taught me that I was so wrong.

I’ve grown up but most importantly I’ve learnt that who I am is pretty great. Instead of trying to change myself I have learnt to embrace all my quirks.

The greatest life lesson I’ve learnt so far is: To love who I am.

But that being said, I’m still battling my insecurities. I still come home feeling hopeless sometimes. I still have those moments of crippling doubt and overbearing futility. 

Everyone has insecurities, some people are just better at hiding them. 

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Things I am insecure about:

That I’m so quiet: I feel like I’m a forgettable person. Like I blend into the background and nobody would really miss me if I wasn’t there.

My body: Because I’m not and nor will I ever be super thin, tanned or ripped. I don’t measure up to society’s definition of beautiful and sometimes I let that upset me. 

That I’m so girly: I get worried that people won’t respect me. That people will think I’m just another ditzy blonde. That guys will think I’m high maintenance and too much to handle.

That I’m an introvert: Because I’m so awkward in social situations. I always feel left out and misunderstood. 

Related: Honest confessions of an introvert.

That I have a blog: And I share my secrets with literally the entire world. What will people think of me when they read my deepest fears and failures? 

That I’m so out of touch: Because I am pretty much a grandma. I don’t speak in slang like the youths do. I don’t like Game of Thrones. I don’t often stay up past 9 pm. And I fear that people won’t like me because of it. 

That I’m a Christian: I worry about how I come across all the time. What will people think of me? Will I be judged if I share my beliefs with people? Will people make assumptions about me like I don’t drink or I hate homosexuals? (neither are true FYI.)  


All of these things are what make me, me. All of this time I was trying to change myself but all I was doing was stripping away the essence of who I am.

The greatest life lesson I have learnt is that you are most powerful when you are being true to yourself. When you know who you are and choose to love that person…you become unstoppable. You are a force to be reckoned with and you will turn heads!

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Who is this girl with all that confidence?

What is her secret?

I want what she’s got!

When we own our “flaws” and celebrate them…it changes everything. So just to prove my point I’m gonna flip all of those insecurities on their head.

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Here’s what I love about myself:

My quietness: means that I really listen when people talk and I make observations that others miss.

My body: is mine and it really is beautiful. It’s just the shell that carries the joy inside me.

My girlishness: I get such joy in dressing up and pretty clothes give me confidence. There’s no shame in dressing to impress. 

Related: How to start dressing with confidence

My introvertedness: makes me relatable to other people. Extroverts often own the show so people find it refreshing to meet an introvert. 

My blog: is my biggest achievement to date. Everything I have created here comes straight from my heart and I am extremely proud of it. 

My old-fashioned nature: is just a bit of a laugh. I bring the entertainment factor just by being myself. I’ll never be cool but heck, where’s the fun in that?

My faith: is my greatest source of strength. It’s the very core of who I am. It is the only thing that truly defines me. And I wanna spend all my days gushing about God’s goodness. 

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See your flaws and insecurities can become your greatest strengths. They are the very things that make you unique and valuable. And boy do we need unique. There is so much fake and inauthentic in this world.

We NEED a dose of realness. We need quirky, weird and wacky. We need you to be yourself because as Oscar Wilde says: everyone else is already taken.

The greatest life lesson you will ever learn truly is: to love yourself just the way that you are.

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Now tell me…

What do you LOVE most about yourself?

What were you like in high school?

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36 Comments

    1. That is so wonderful to hear. I’m glad you could relate to this post. Being quiet is NOT a bad thing. Your silence means you words have more impact and hold more power. Keep on being you <3

  1. Megan this is so beautiful. I love that you share your thoughts with us on this blog… I love that you’re faithful and true to who you are. That is amazing. Greatest life lesson I’ve learned so far? I am strong in my own power and capable of overcoming hardships!

    1. Aw thanks Lyss. I really needed that encouragement. Sometimes sharing this stuff is kinda terrifying but I know it is worth it. I LOVE that. You are so awesome. I love seeing the community of strong women you are encouraging too. Keep it up girl!

  2. Megan, thank you so much for sharing your story! Insecurity has been something I’ve been actively combating recently. So often, we become insecure about things because the world creates these unattainable and false standards that we can’t live up to. When we begin to express our insecurity, we can begin to see them for what they truly are – beautiful strengths. Because that’s what makes us, us. Thanks for your vulnerability and transparency. It was so refreshing!

    1. I really hope you feel inspired to look at your insecurities in a new light. Those things we so often try to change are the things that separate us from the crowd and are truly beautiful. Thanks for reading Ashton <3

  3. This is such a lovely post. Many of my insecurities are similar to yours, so I like how you gave them a spin and turned them into something positive. I’m working on self-love and realizing my self-worth, and posts like this are so helpful. Thank you!

    1. I hope you know just how incredible you are. When you learn to re-frame them…those insecurities lose their power and you become unstoppable. I’m so glad you liked this post…Thanks for reading!

    1. Thank you Kristen <3 I'm a silver lining kinda girl so I love to look for the positive in things. I think it gives our insecurities less power when we put a positive spin on them too.

  4. Beautiful! I know exactly what you are talking about. I was that way to in hugh school. I am such a different person now. I have embraced all those things I thought were negative. What a great post.

    1. It’s so awesome that as we grow up and mature we become new people. I love that we can embrace the things now that used to hold us back. Think about how content we will be in ourselves when we are 80! Thanks for reading Cate 🙂

  5. Yes. I love that you have found all the things about yourself that make you ‘you.’ You are uniquely, fearfully wonderfully made by God. <3 I really appreciate your quietness, and I treasure so many friends I have who do truly listen intently with sincerity and kindness. I want to be more like you.

    And your FAITH in the Lord Jesus Christ shines. Truly you are one of His lights shining on a hill. The more unashamed you are of Jesus, the more I see His beauty in you. <3

    I'm constantly also encouraged by you and your blog and the thought and love you pour into each blog post. I always look forward to reading your posts.

    1. Aw you are so sweet Emily. You are such an awesome encourager. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my posts and write little comments of encouragement. You always make my day!

  6. This is so wonderful! I was very much like you in middle and high school–most of the time, I felt like I would have been happier being anyone else but me. I hated how quiet and introverted I was, that I never got invited to parties and that I just had a handful of close friends instead of a huge crowd. However, even when I had everything I “wanted” in college, I still wasn’t happy, because I was trying to be something I wasn’t! Embracing your true self >>> trying to be something you aren’t 🙂

    1. I think we would have been best buds in high school haha. So so true. We never really are happy unless we are being ourselves. I guess because even if we have friends they don’t know the real us so it feels fake.

  7. One of the best posts I’ve read in a long time friend! You have a beautiful way of writing and drawing in the reader. I also connect with you in most of these aspects: being shy and a Christian and body issues. Thanks for sharing this! Definitely something I needed.

    1. Oh thank you. That means a lot Hilary! I hope you feel encouraged by this post to love yourself just as you are. Kick those insecurities to the curb!

  8. Oh my goodness – yes yes yes a thousand times yes. I might have to emulate your post and do this as a journaling exercise this weekend. It is so easy to see our own insecurities when we see everyone’s highlight reel. I love how you flipped these on its head and you love yourself! BTW – You are definitely NOT unforgettable, you are gorgeous and you have a beautiful heart. Thank you for being a light in this world. <3

    1. I LOVE the idea of making this a journaling tool. Journaling is my fave. Thank you! I’m glad you don’t think I’m forgettable 🙂 I appreciate your support.

  9. Life never comes as we expect it. Many times, we need to go through the dark side which might break our faith and belief. I too have learned the same thing. It is necessary to talk with own soul to overcome any kind of problem.

    1. So true. Life is always unexpected…things never quite go the way we plan! It’s kinda amazing what happens as we go through those dark times though and how they shape our faith.
      Thanks for reading Stephanie! <3

  10. Oh my goodness. I just found your blog and read this post and it’s absolutely perfect. Literally after every sentence I thought, ‘I so relate to this,’ or ‘that’s so true.’I feel like God’s been teaching me to love myself over the last several years (it’s been a long road–I’m a slow learner I guess), but this summer I finally realized that really, I do, and I finally feel like I’ve made peace with myself. And that peace extends to every corner of my life. Not that things are perfect, but I feel grounded. Thanks for this.

    1. Oh hey there! I’m so glad that you liked this post <3 I am totally a slow learner too. It has taken me so long to realize what God says about me is true and his thoughts are the only ones that matter. It's wonderful that you feel grounded in that peace! I hope I'll see you around here more often 🙂

  11. Oh my goodness so much yes to this post! I love it so so much! I feel many of the insecurities on your list as well and as much as I wouldn’t wish them on anyone, sometime’s it’s nice to know we aren’t the only ones, ya know?! I absolutely love how you put a positive spin on everything! There’s nothing unforgettable about someone with the strength and ability to do that!

    1. Thank you Michelle! I totally get what you mean. It always makes me feel better knowing I’m not the only one who worries about these things. You are so sweet. This comment totally made my day!

  12. I love this SO much. It amazes me how relatable your insecurities are with mine (as well as others as I read from browsing the comments). I can especially relate to being quiet, introverted, awkward and an old soul. I would love to say that I’m where you are at on the spectrum of owning who you are. Sadly though I’m not yet there. However, I have realized how this is exactly what I need to be working on to feel unstuck–my self-worth/-confidence/-esteem.
    All this to say thankyouthankyouthankyou!!!

    1. I have found it pretty awesome to see how inspired and encouraged people have been by this post. It seems that a lot of us struggle with the same things! Keep working on loving yourself and totally owning that because it really does make you a whole new person. Confidence is key and confidence comes from security in yourself.

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