Wanna know a little secret? I’m currently writing this post in my biology lab, on the back of my lab manual, in pencil so I can erase it before I hand my worksheet in later. I know, I know, I’m the worst student ever but this little confession ties in perfectly with today’s post. See, I’ve realized something recently which is this: I have a real issue with letting myself slow down. I’ve been hustling hard and it’s wearing me down.
I’m a go-getter, a goal-setter and a make-it-happen kind of gal. That’s all fun and games until you’re spinning so fast on your hamster wheel that you just CAN’T stop. And that my friends, is a one stop track to burnout.
I’m sick of hustling hard and getting nowhere.
Maybe you know what I’m talking about, because maybe you feel it too.
The frustration of being stuck somewhere- in traffic, in class, in an excruciatingly boring meeting- and ‘wasting’ time. The pressure to be productive with every second of your day. The irritation of facing a setback or hurdle when you are reaching for your goals.
And you know what…I don’t think it’s our fault.
We are constantly being bombarded with these messages to work now, sleep (and cry) later, be a GIRL BOSS, make it happen etc etc.
Don’t get me wrong, I think it is a brilliant thing to have goals and big dreams. I admire anyone and everyone who strives to be a better person. But, this go-go-go attitude is a problem when it causes you miss out on life.Having goals is awesome but you've got to be realistic. Click To Tweet
Because now my time feels scarce. Every minute is costing me. And I can see this destructive mindset starting to takeover. I can’t sit still anymore. I can’t just BE, I’ve got be be doing something and telling someone about it (maybe that’s just a blogger thing?)
When I’m waiting in line at the checkout, I could be editing photos for a blog post.
When the traffic is slow on the motorway, I could be researching for my assignment.
When I’m just sitting talking to a friend, I’ve got my to-do list scrolling through my head.
It feels like I need to be on the go 24/7, and even my ‘self care’ becomes another task on my list. Like I NEED to paint my nails, then do yoga and then read for twenty minutes. The things that are supposed to be fun have become goals that I need to achieve.
Is anyone else seeing a problem here?
When did the task of writing in my journal become a measure of how successful my day was?
Why do I only feel satisfied when I’ve posted a photo for the day on Instagram?
So here’s the deal…I’m sick of hustling hard and getting nowhere and I’ve decided what I’m gonna do about it.
My antidotes to the ‘hustle harder’ mindset:
Embrace your inner child and let go. Laugh loudly and spontaneously. Why walk when you can run? (or better yet…skip!) Draw, doodle and finger paint. Make a mess and smile while you’re doing it.
Stop taking yourself so seriously. You are not too busy to laugh at someone’s joke.Stop taking yourself so seriously. Laugh like you mean it! Click To Tweet
That means enjoying this moment that you are in. Breathe deeply and appreciate all that you have and all that you are.
Unplug from all distractions, commitments and negativity. Get away from technology for an hour, a minute or just a few seconds. Find someplace peaceful and relax there. Don’t photograph/share/document the moment. Be selfish with the experience. Keep it all for you.
Resist the temptation to fill your schedule. Fight the urge to scroll mindlessly on your phone.
Take time off to just BE. Relieve yourself of any pressure to perform, impress or improve. Just be content in where you are at this moment.
And if you want to fill this time with something then let it be because you WANT to, not because you feel obliged to. Read, cook, sing, dance…simply for the joy of it.Do the things that bring you joy. Everything else is irrelevant. Click To Tweet
So here’s what I think, it’s not that hustling is bad per se. It’s just maybe we need to change our mindset when it comes to doing it all.
Maybe we need to give ourselves a break. Maybe we need to embrace the fact that life is messy and we simply cannot be productive all the time (we are humans not machines after all.)
Maybe after all, we don’t need to be hustling harder…we need to be hustling in moderation. It’s not as catchy but a whole lot more realistic IMO.
Because in the end, what matters most are not the number of ticks on our to-do list, the number of followers on our Instagram or the number of dollars in our bank account…it’s the love we shared, the joy we experienced and the memories we treasure.
Pin this if you need a little reminder:
Now tell me…
Do you ever feel sick of the hustle?
When was the last time you ‘unplugged’ from social media?