April book review: The Defining Decade

Hello friends!

Well down here it is officially Autumn. The trees are turning red which is making my heart very happy and it’s a little too chilly to go out without a coat now. So you know what that means? It’s officially hot chocolate and dog-eared paperbacks season. I mean reading is really a year-round, any time, any place kinda thing. On the bus commute to work, underneath your desk in lectures, while running on the treadmill (haven’t tried it because I’m sure there would be multiple casualties.) But there is something about Autumn that stirs up a strong desire in my soul for cozying up with a good book.

So without further ado, here is my book of the month…

The Defining Decade – Meg Jay PhD

Who is this book for?

All twenty-somethings, especially those about to go through a major life transition such as job hunting, marriage, changing career paths or moving cities. 

It’s for anyone who is scared of taking the next step, or is feeling a little lost and confused about how to do this adulting stuff.

What is it about?

Basically, this book is all about why our twenties are so important. The message that we keep getting told is that our twenties is the time for drifting and going with the flow but all that is creating is a bunch of confused, lost millennials who don’t know when or how to settle on something or someone.

We have so many options that we can become paralyzed, and this book is the tool to un-paralyze us. To motivate and encourage us to do something; anything to get going.

This book explains the reasons why our twenties are actually extremely important and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Because the choices we make in our twenties greatly impact the person who we will become and what the rest of our lives will look like.

The author covers all the major issues that twenty-somethings face like transitioning into the workforce and finding love. So pretty much whatever thing you are stressing about, she’s got your back

Book review: The Defining Decade. Why our twenties matter and how they shape the rest of our lives. For any twenty-something who is a little lost, uncertain of the future or scared of taking the next step. This book will help you tackle those big scary life decisions like choosing a career path and finding love.

Favourite quotes:

“As a twenty-something, life is still more about potential than proof. Those who can tell a good story about who they are and what they want leap over those who can’t.”


“Interviewers want to hear a reasonable story about the past, present and future. How does what you did before relate to what you want to do now and how might that get you want you want to do next?… the burden is on the applicant to show that working here makes sense beyond the person just wanting the job or the building being two blocks from their apartment.”

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Why I loved it?

The author gave some really helpful advice on how to be prepared for the kinds of questions asked in interviews, which lets be honest is pretty much everyone’s worst nightmare. Is there really an appropriate answer to ‘why do you want this job?’ apart from ‘for the money?’ Well apparently, yes as you will find out in this book. 

She also talks about how to move past that anxious feeling of having so many options that you don’t know where to even begin. Because planning a career path can feel a little like being lost at sea and having no idea which way you should start swimming. But fear not, you don’t have to feel anxious anymore. 

And lastly, she explains a little about the psychology behind attraction/compatibility which is hella interesting friends. I’ve always thought extroverts and introverts should match up to balance each other out but apparently I was wrong. It’s more to do with how well we match up in these 5 areas: 

Overall impression?

5/5 stars.

Obviously there is a bit of psychology in this book which made it a little snoozy but it didn’t make me wanna stop reading (i.e. it was bearable and mostly skippable.) This book opened my eyes to why our twenties are really important and put a bit of pressure on me to make this time count.

I feel like I am better equipped to face the next ten years and less panicky about all the scary steps I’ll have to take.

This is a book that I seriously recommend every twenty-something read. I don’t know about you, but I need every smidgen of advice I can get when it comes to surviving adulthood. 

If you want a little sneak peek of what the book is like,  I found a TED talk which the author gave and it’s really really good.

M x

Now tell me…

How do you feel about your twenties?

Have you got some sort of life plan?


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  1. Wow this sounds really interesting; like you I’m always a bit averse to ‘psychology’ but I do definitely see her point about the pros and cons of the twenties: I really relate to a lot of them. O_O

    I love you sharing these reviews Megan; thank you!

    1. This is a really great book! I’m glad you like the reviews. I feel like I’ve got so many great books and not enough time to share them all!

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